Monday, 13 January 2014

Why parents deserve some kindness too??

We are living at a time, when all over the world, parents and elders are increasingly being abused by their own children. They often fall victim to unwholesome and cruel actions from the people most dear to them. We are so busy today or so we think that we don’t have time to reflect on the kindness and value of parents in our lives. We forget the sacrifices made by our parents to bring us where we stand today. Our parents spend their life time worrying about our happiness and wellbeing. They save for us the sweet and eat the bitter themselves. They spend their hard earned money for our education hopping that one day their children will grow up to become a good human being and live happily in the world.  But then many of us don’t even think of their great kindness and compassion. Many of us think that our old parents are a liability. 

I have a feeling that if something called God at all existed in the universe; it exists in the heart of our parents. Firstly, they created us. Secondly, they give everything in their life to us and expect nothing in return. Thirdly, they always want only good things to happen to us. They care for us and worry about us till they breath their last. We have never seen god. We have not also received god’s grace. But yes, we have seen the love and compassion of parents. We have seen how pure their love is. For this reason I say, god exist in the hearts of parents. How unethical it is to neglect all their kindness and look down on them when they need us the most.

Lord Buddha taught at length about the kindness of parents and difficulty to repay them. He said, “If there were a person, for the sake of his parents, swallowed molten iron pellets and continue doing this for hundreds of thousands of eons, that person still would not have repaid the deep kindness of his parents.” The Buddha also said, “If there were a person, for the sake of his parents, took a sharp knife and cut his eyes and made an offering of them to the Buddhas, and continued to do so for hundreds of thousands of eons, that person still would not have repaid the deep kindness of his parents.” Lord Buddha would pay respect and pray even to a heap of bones on the roadside. When his disciples questioned him, he would say, the bones could be of his own parents in many life time ago. 

In my own country, a nation where we pursue happiness from all angles of life, incidences of parents and elders being abused are on the rise. Bhutan is often referred to as the last Shangri-La. Shangri-La is supposed to be a place of eternal happiness and bliss where people live long and free of worries.  It is definitely worthwhile to take some time and remember our parents in our lives and show them the kindness they deserve. It is said how our children will treat us in the future depends upon how we treat our parents today. Now is the time to be kind to parents. If not now, when???

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